When I first get up in the morning I really need to have my first cup of tea and twenty minutes of peace and quiet to just sit and relax and savor the tea while letting my brain get ready for the day. That does not mean that I am cranky in the morning, it just means that I need to be gently coaxed into the day. Once I get that quiet time I am able to greet whatever the day holds for me. If I start off the day with having to participate in an intelligent conversation immediately I get a migraine headache that lasts the entire day. Not liking migraine headaches, I tend to be cranky when that happens.
For that reason I try to stay in bed in the morning until my husband leaves the house to run errands or go to work, because no matter how many times I explain to him that I NEED that peaceful beginning of the day he simply will not give me that peace and quiet. I try explaining to him how important that quiet time is before I go to bed at night, in the middle of the day, when I first get up, it does not matter. If he is home I will not get that peace and quiet. I am loathe to start off the day telling him to “shut-up” because I think that is very rude. But when I wake up and am getting out of bed and tell him “I really need some quiet time this morning” and then frequently asking him “please stop talking to me and let me have some quiet time” just isn’t doing the trick. What would you do? I am close to my wit’s end!