You’ve found the one. You know it. You can feel it in your bones. Every song reminds you of them. Every morning you wake up, they are on your mind. But then, all of the sudden, things are going downhill. You are fighting constantly. You are upset half the time. Every song reminds you of them, but the genre has changed from romantic pop to metal. What happened? The truth is, couples forget that the puppy love phase soon wears off. The things that you used to love about your partner make you want to poke his or her eyes out with a fork. Here are some helpful tips on what not to do in your current or next relationship:
This is a common mistake among girls. You know the boy doesn’t want to be in a monogamous relationship, but you still agree to date him! But that boy isn’t going to change, and it’s unfair of you to expect him to change for you. He thinks you like him the way he is. Focus on finding a partner that has similar goals about the future as you do. If you know you want a serious boyfriend or girlfriend, don’t find the one person who doesn’t want that and get mad at them for not changing their ways for you.
This is probably the worst thing you can do in a relationship. Especially at the beginning! When you are both getting to know each other, it’s important to be open and honest. Yeah, you might really like this person. And yes, you might be afraid to admit that you have cheated on your last boyfriend or girlfriend. But it is so much better to speak up and be honest than to have these dirty secrets creep up on you both later on when you have invested so much in the relationship. If it’s meant to be, it will be. Remember that.
It’s incredibly hard for men and women to understand each other. So most couples stop trying. Instead of agreeing that you both are different and that’s that, explore each other’s personalities. Learn more about each other by talking about your likes and dislikes. Grow to love each other’s differences instead of bringing them up in future arguments.
In a relationship, you must make sacrifices. But when it starts to hinder your own happiness, it’s time to make some changes. If you are miserable all the time, start talking more with your partner. Figure out why you are unhappy and resolve to fix it with your significant other. So many couples just give up when things get hard. But the truth is, all relationships are hard. It’s the people who fight for each other that end up in stronger and happier relationships.
Remember those girls nights you used to have with cosmos and gossip? Or those guys nights with card games and cigars? Those tend to stop after you get into a relationship. Don’t let it! It’s hard to not spend every moment with the person who you are really into at the moment. But you shouldn’t. First of all, you will inevitably get sick of each other. And second of all, it’s important to maintain a life with your friends outside of your relationship. Relationships are ships passing in the sea. Friendships are the water that holds the ships up.
About the author: Carly is a blogger for Forward Home Security. She can usually be found walking her dog outside or reading a book at a local coffee shop.